Don’t say to me “I don’t know how you do it?” because I am not really interested. It pisses me off actually. It does not feel like a complement. More like, “I am glad it’s not me” kind of comment. It is about six weeks since the girls dad moved out and “I don’t know how you do it” is agonizing. The fact is I don’t want to be doing it on my own but I have too. For the past few weeks dinner has been a massive stress. I enjoy my job and love my home but there is an hour and half distance between them both. So when I collect the girls from daycare, dinner seems an impoosible feat when I am tired, the girls are cranky, dirty and there is never anything prepared in the fridge. So after weeks of take out and crap for dinner I put action and made three little change that start this week.
1. Did my grocery shopping online. The relief was quite sad when it was packed and delivered to my kitchen yesterday.
2. Spent a few minutes looking at recipes and prepared a weeking Dinner Planner and printed it out and placed it on the fridge.
3. Hired a Babysitter to pick up the girls from daycare two days a week to help me out for a few hours with bath and dinner.
Simple changes but hopefully a start while I build some organisation and routine back into my life.
L
I’m glad you were able to find a babysitter to help you out. If you need anything let me know, there are some MoM’s in the network that are single parents and can definitely give some advice or support.
Lisa. Had no idea you were on your own now. I’m sorry this is happening to you. If you want an ear (even a virtual one..) then please let me know. Lots of love to you. Btw I think planning is a great idea. Doing double serves of meals that can stretch to more than one night is good too. xo
How do you order food from the grocery store? I don’t think they do that in Fort Worth Texas. Maybe some of the real cities do that.
Sorry you got dumped, but the guy obviously wasn’t good enough for you.
You sound like you are adjusting. You’ll figure it out.
uh! Can I just say that I totally agree? I don’t have twins, but I have 4 kids ages 6 5 4 and 10 months and a husband who works two jobs- so I’m doing it all by myself for the most part. Is it hard? Yes. Does it suck? A lot of the time. But you know, I love my kids, and when people say to me “i don’t know how you do it” or “I could never do that.” It isn’t a compliment! I don’t know how to explain why not or what makes me so mad, it just does. I’m a mom and this is what I do. I DO it. If it sucks, it still needs done. Not to mention, I love my little knuckleheads more than anything. If I didn’t thinkI could do it, I wouldn’t have had more. I just feel like saying to those people “If you couldn’t do it, then don’t…but saying that to me makes me feel like you think my priorities aren’t right…and that’s not fair. Because they’re MY priorities. Which means they’re right.”
Hey, I’m here from MBS alexa hop. I’m following you on GFC and I’m off to leave you an alexa review. I’d love a review and follow back. Thanks!
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