Let’s face it: sometimes a relationship or marriage can get into a season of monotony or boredom. Even worse, it could get to a point in which both partners are just not happy anymore. It is a shame that relationships struggle and heartbreaking that so many don’t last, but there is hope.
If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you understand that there is this magnificent law at work in the universe that really wants to help you out. The trick is that you have to understand how to put this law to work for you instead of against you.
The law of attraction is a law that asserts that whatever you put your focus on, you attract more of the same. Think of a magnet. A magnet attracts certain objects to it and you are a magnet as well. In fact, you are attracting either positive or negative things to you right now.
What is the deciding factor?
Your thoughts and your attention.
If your thoughts are primarily negative, the law of attraction is at work bringing your way negative things. However, if your thoughts are primarily positive, the law of attraction is at work bringing in positive things.
Let me put this another way. When you think about your partner and your relationship, do you focus on the good or the bad? You might say both, but which gets the most attention? Probably the bad. You probably tend to think about all the things he does that upsets you or is annoying. These thoughts tend to cause you to experience negative emotions like anger, frustration, and sadness.
Those thoughts that you are allowing to run rampant in your mind are actually negative vibrations that are spiraling out into the universe, attracting other negative vibrations, and like a boomerang, it is all headed back your way. Negative attracts negative.
Now that you understand more about the law of attraction, I want you to evaluate what kinds of thoughts you are thinking about your relationship. Maybe it is boring, or toxic, or run its course. Maybe your partner is acting the fool or not affectionate enough or lazy. No matter what is going on, I want you to make a commitment to stop focusing on the negative.
It’s time to tell a new story. I’m assuming that you want your relationship to work out and that both you and your partner still love each other. That being said, I want you to make a list of all the things you like about your partner and all the characteristics that you want your partner to have that he or she is not displaying.
Then begin thinking about all of it. Think about the things you love, think about the qualities you want to see, think about the romantic evenings and warm sentiments going forth. Dream about the exciting vacation you want to take together.
Say, “I am so happy and grateful for my partner! I love it that he adores me and showers me with sweet affirmations and tokens of his love. I love that he works hard and plays hard. I love it that he takes care of himself, is funny, and cares about meeting my emotional needs.”
Say it like you mean it and feel the happiness bubbling inside. It is important to think and feel positively about the relationship. Do you know what is happening while you do this? Those positive thoughts are vibrations spiraling out into the universe, attracting other positive things, and headed right straight back to you!
As this occurs, you will feel happier. You will come home from work in a good mood, singing a little jig as you cook dinner, and delight in your partner all evening. Trust me: your partner will notice and be delighted in your attitude. He will most likely get on board with you because those positive vibes are contagious. They really are!
Be encouraged. If your relationship is not as you want and you’ve been harboring negative thoughts, take the initiative to do something different. Put the law of attraction to work for you. Stop pointing fingers and make the first move toward bettering your relationship. You and your partner will be so glad you did!